I hate to sound like a pessimist, but I don’t really feel that much more appreciated, loved or cherished on Mother’s Day, especially when I spend the days leading up to my “special” day trying to do all of the laundry, cleaning the whole house, doing all of the grocery shopping, and running all of the errands so that on my “special day” I can sit back, relax and be celebrated. Usually by the time Mother’s Day rolls around, I am cranky, easily irritated, and wondering why I didn’t choose life as a nun.
I do have to give my kids credit. They try their hardest to behave on this ONE day of the year, but at some point, I always find myself screaming: “This is supposed to be my day!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!” And I would never want to leave my dear husband out of all of this specialness. Like clock- work, the night before Mother’s Day, he leaves me home with all of the kids and goes “missing” for about 47 minutes. He races to Nordstrom before it closes, grabs the first thing that he sees, races to the closest drugstore to buy the last card on the shelf and then he sits in our driveway while he writes a “special” note in the car. Ahhhhhh, I feel so treasured.
Yeah, I know exactly how Mother’s Day goes down, which is why this year I am switching up the whole game.
This year I am ending Mother’s Day because I plan to have Mother’s Days (yes, plural) throughout the year. Days where I don’t feel guilty if I don’t brush someone’s teeth before bed. Days where I don’t feel badly about rifling through the dirty clothes hamper to find something suitable for the kids to wear. Days where I treat myself to a pair of flats from Tory Burch just because. Days where I buy a half dozen cupcakes from my favorite place and refuse to share them with anyone.
From now on I am going to place less emphasis on Mother’s Day and more emphasis on what makes me happy as a Mom and what makes my life easier as a stay at home mother. Sure, being celebrated on one day is good, but the fact that I have managed to keep three kids alive and relatively happy and well adjusted for the past 8 years is the true accomplishment and that certainly deserves more than just one day to celebrate.
So, if your moonlighting as a chef, therapist, housecleaner, referee, podiatrist, lawyer, hairdresser, chauffeur and so much more, make sure to celebrate being a mom whenever you want. I wish you the happiest of Mother’s Days!
- What a Mom Wants – Trend-setting blogger moms tell us what they want most for Mother’s Day (theinsider.retailmenot.com)
- Why this year is the most important mother’s day for me (mayahoodblog.com)