Although society seems to frown upon it, it is sometimes absolutely imperative (for the well-being of all involved) to put Mommy first. Before you even get the morning sickness, hemorrhoids, engorged breasts, sleepless nights and extra skin around the mid-section, people will harp on the fact that once you have a child, you, as a Mom, become second fiddle and your life’s mission will now be to put your child first and make sure that they are taken care of and happy.
While I do agree that it is important to nurture and take care of your child, I can’t say that I agree 100% that kids should always come first. Here are just a few times where Mommy should come first:
1. When there is only one dollop of conditioner left. My girls and I all have naturally curly hair, but when we are down to our last bit of Kinky Curly Knot Today Leave In Conditioner, it is every (wo)man for herself and I always come out on top. A crazy looking Mommy is far worse than a crazy looking child.
2. When your husband is traveling and the only way to get to the gym is to skip one of your child’s activities and drag all of the kids to the gym child care. Mommy is far less useful when she is dead from high blood pressure and obesity. I am just sayin’.
3. When you are traveling with your family of five and just one person is upgraded to first class. I mean, really, is this even a question? A giving Mommy would, however, make sure to smuggle enough free snacks in her purse for everyone to enjoy in the hotel room.
Surely I am not the only Mommy who agrees that as a mere survival mechanism it is important to put yourself first. What ways do you put yourself first? I promise not to judge!
Being a single parent and a care taker of my grandfather and helping my mother around the house I don’t have much time to put myself first LOL…. I do have two things I do for myself to keep my sanity LOL…
1. I take long showers, time to regroup myself for the evening
2. When everyone goes to sleep I stay up and enjoy some of my favorite tv shows in peace with a huge cup of coffee
I agree your children should always come first!! But it is important to make some time for yourself!
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Thanks Jessica! Just wait until Ethan starts barging into the shower when you are taking one of your long, relaxing showers. No place is sacred with kids. Now that all of the good TV shows are over for the summer what will you watch?? I am going through withdrawal!
ha! love these. i’ll add…
4. when there is just 1 Skinny Cow Vanilla Caramel Ice Cream Cone left in the freezer. the kids can eat anything!! they need to back up off of mama’s low calorie treats
Thanks Justice Fergie! I am laughing at your comment. I am currently eating a frozen fruit bar that I had stashed deep in the back of our freezer. Stashing seems to be the way to go!
HA! Love this and the comments. I also steal time for a little late evening tv or uninterrupted reading. Also, I like to wake before the family so I can shovel food and coffee/tea in my mouth because–don’t know when it happened–I am NOT nice when I’m unfed in the morning. I feel crazy and cranky.
Thanks so much for your comment. It is getting little nuggets of alone time in but they make all the difference in helping to reduce the craziness/crankiness. I am reading the Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks right now and sometimes I get so immersed I don’t even hear the bickering going on in the background.
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