I recently suggested to my husband that we sit down and seriously discuss what my roles and responsibilities will be as a stay at home mom. I was very curious to know what his expectations would be.
In lieu of my past quick and easy pasta bake, will he now be expecting homemade pasta with fresh tomatoes from a garden that I have grown myself?
Will he request that his clothes be washed, folded and put away properly as opposed to how I now wash all clothes (regardless of color) in one load and then shove them in any open crevice on his side of the closet?
While it was clear within a few minutes of our conversation that other than me not screaming at the kids in the morning that I was going to be late for work, not a whole lot would be changing from what I was doing when I worked outside of the home. Although, it seems as though my dear husband seems to think that I will have a lot more time for, sex.
Now, I have polled many of my stay at home mommy friends and all of them told me explicitly what they do, do more of: referring, cooking, cleaning, playdate scheduling, volunteering, penny pinching, bargain hunting, pinteresting, couponing, crying in the fetal position, shopping, wine drinking, dolling out bandaids, etc. and not one of them ever mentioned that they were having more sex as a result of being a stay at home mom, although some of them did say that they are thinking a lot more about sex because they are reading “Fifty Shades of Grey.”
After working the 24 hour shift (what I affectionately call being a stay at home mom), I can honestly say that at the end of my day I am tired and drained and sex is not really at the top of my mind. Although, I suppose I am open to having more relations, maybe I can schedule some time do it on my day off?
Are you going to read 50 shades of Grey? apparently my hubby said he bought it for me as a mother’s day gift not realized what it was about (he was just following his co-worker) and then returned it when he found out it was “mommy-porn”. lol
Maya I think that I will save all of that salaciousness for summer. LOL @ your mommy porn. I can’t wait to hear what you think about it! Please let me know.
No! He returned the books back after he realized what they were about. hahaha!! he’s so prude!
That is pretty funny! You know they are supposed to be making the trilogy into a movie. It looks like “Fifty” is going to be around for a while. Maybe your husband will come around!
Sex may not be at the top of the mind, but it is important. And given the busy schedules, unless one makes it a priority, it won’t happen. And then 15 years have gone by and it’s too late.
I totally appreciate your comment and if I didn’t know better I would think that you were my husband anonymously commenting. Seriously though, I agree that relations are important for a relationship and while it may not be sexy, sometimes it needs to be scheduled to make sure it happens. If this is my husband……Hurry home honey, the kids are napping!